Anyone else here a people pleaser?
I used to constantly try to appease everyone in my life. There’s not much I wouldn’t do to make someone happy or to help make their life easier.
And at whose expense? Only my own.
I cared so much about what people thought of me and I just wanted to make sure I could keep my title as “the nice one” or the “helper”
I gave a lot of my free time, my resources and quite honestly, myself to uphold this.
It. Was. Exhausting.
Finally, I started to learn my own self worth.
I learned that I could still be the helper and say no at the same time.
I learned that I can CHOOSE what I cared about and it certainly didn’t have to choose to care about what others thought of me.
I’ve been a lot happier since then and I’m proud of the person I’ve grown into since my realization.
I’m going to end with a quote from @markmanson —
You’re already choosing in every moment of every day what to give a f*** about. Change is as simple as choosing to give a f*** about something else. It really is that simple it’s just not easy.
Good things aren’t easy.
Step out of your comfort zone.
Make a change.
Stop giving a 🤫