Guilt is a feeling that usually arises when we feel that we have acted voluntarily or involuntarily against a person and that leads us to feel guilty and remorseful.
The feeling of guilt arises when we become aware of our actions or think about them. Although this causes us to judge and anger ourselves, the constant reminder of the harm caused by this feeling gives us an opportunity to reverse to some extent what we reject from our behavior. Feeling guilty can lead us to somatization, and we can feel physical ailments such as chest pain, abdominal pain, pressure in the headache and backache. It is also possible that we become irritable and nervous and reproach ourselves – accusations and thoughts are destructive.
When we feel uncomfortable, when we have acted badly, or when we discover mistakes, we can progress, grow, and develop. However, there are times when the weight of the crime, even if attempted to offset it, continues to haunt us and become a toxic debt that blocks us and creates us. Anxiety that causes unproductive suffering
When you experience this sensation, the first thing you should do is:
- Analyze all components of the situation and determine your responsibilities.
- Do not deny or try to avoid your guilt. Take it for what you did and said, that is, take responsibility for your behavior without blaming others. Don’t try to deny, hide, or camouflage it as this will prevent you from moving forward.
- Accept your complaints as normal when dealing positively with mistakes.
- See the positive side of your discomfort. Feeling guilty even when it hurts means that you are empathetic, that is, you understand the suffering you have caused, you are not indifferent to the pain of others, and you are trying to learn so that you will be different next time act and not make the same mistake.
- Express what you are feeling and apologize to the person who offended you or who the mistake fell on. If there is no specific person, express your regret through a symbolic letter, even if there is no specific recipient.
- Try to reverse your mistake to some extent or try to compensate the injured in some way. However, be aware that there are limitations and it is not possible to clear the past. After you’ve done everything you can to find the person’s forgiveness, rest.
If you cannot overcome your guilt or if it is a pathological guilt, we recommend that you see a psychotherapist.